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November 18, 2018 Leave a comment

Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours – Les Brown

One of the toughest lessons I ever had to learn was that life can change in an instant.

Circumstances change. Lives change. Change is the only constant.

The change could be positive, it could be negative. No one wants a negative change, but we sparsely get to choose.

Be kind to others. Lend a helping hand, especially if you think that person never repay the favor. You never know, it might be you needing someone to pull you up tomorrow.

Check on your siblings, family, close friends, old friends, work friends too. Just a call or message could make the difference. People are hurting and you can never imagine what they’re dealing with unless they open to you.

If you need someone to talk, please reach out to a friend. Everyone has someone. Sometimes, all you need is a good laugh and healthy conversation.

As people reach out, call or buzz you, please be reachable and receptive (not hostile in your responses). Be nice. Yes, granted, some will ask for money, but is that reason enough to ignore? If, really, all you can offer is a listening ear, please do that. If all you can give is sound advice, please do so. If all you can do is pray, say a prayer for them.

Don’t merely be Christian in words, but in your actions; especially those no one sees.

Show God’s love; what if it were you?
You just might discover that in helping another person up, you’ll find yourself lifted.

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September 25, 2018 Leave a comment

No one is useless. I came across this story and had to share it right away:

There was once a young man who did not get the chance to go to university after high school, so his mother got him a wife. After the wedding, he got a job as a teacher in a primary school. Unfortunately, due to his shyness and lack of experience, he was squashed and taunted by the students. After about a week, he quit.

When he returned home, feeling ashamed and ridiculed, his wife dried his tears. She comforted him with these words: ‘When one is too full, he could either pour it out what’s in him or pour nothing out at all. Do not be too sad about it. There is probably a more suitable job waiting for you out there.”

Later on, he found another job. But not long after, he was fired because his employer thought he was too slow compared to his colleagues. He went home feeling inadequate. In school, he was ridiculed by his students, and now, at this job, he was fired for not being competent. This time, his wife said: “There are always people who are skillful and those who are non-skillful. Most of them have experience from their years of work, but you were in school all those years, so how could you have acquired the skills needed?”

He kept getting jobs, but never stayed long in any of them for one reason or the other. Each time, he would return home with a dejected spirit, and each time, his wife would always comfort him. Never for once, was she disappointed or resentful.

He was in his thirties when he realized he had a flair for languages. He became a counselor in a school for the deaf and mute. A few years later, he opened a school for the disabled. Later on, he set up a chain of stores in different cities, selling apparatus & equipment for the disabled. He became a multi-millionaire. That man was John Doe.

One day, he asked his wife: “When I was looking bleakly at my own future, what’s the reason that you had so much faith in me?” His wife gave him a very simple answer. She said: “When a piece of land is not suitable for planting wheat, we could try planting beans. If the beans are not growing well, we could try planting fruits or gourds. If the vegetation is not economical, we can instead scatter buckwheat seeds. These seeds will one day bloom into flowers. On any arable land, there will be one seed that will germinate and grow.”

He cried after listening to his wife’s explanation. His wife’s faith, love and patience in him is likened to that one seed in the land. This is the seed that persists and creates a miracle on the piece of land.

In this world, there’s no one person who is useless. It is just might be that they have not positioned themselves firmly in right place.

I don’t know how true the story. I tried to verify it but no luck. Nonetheless, the message in it is clear. My takeaway is “Never give up on anyone. Sometimes all they need is a little encouragement. Everyone has a gift, and once they find the right place for it, they will flourish.

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October 16, 2016 Leave a comment

It seems to me from time to time that tithe becomes a hot-button topic. It does a couple rounds on social media for a few weeks and hibernates until the following cycle. Almost everyone, or almost every christian, rather, comes up with their own “insights” on what it is and what it isn’t. I wonder why that is so; after all, for the most part, we all read the same bible.

Well, I typically like to do my part by sharing my knowledge on certain issues [as I understand them], and hopefully, encourage one or two people to have a change of perspective. If you’re unsure on what tithe is and/or it’s purpose, please read with an open mind as I try my best to explain.Tithe is a tenth [or ten percent (10%)] of the personal income of every christian that is set aside as a special offering to God. A tithe is different from a love offering or thanksgiving offering because it is a commandment. It is non-negotiable. Its purpose, according to God, in Malachi 3:10, is to ensure the availability of sustenance in the church. His word says, in that passage, “Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house”. In the days of old, it meant both agricultural produce and income. You can think of tithe as a mandatory tax for the support of the church.

Why is it mandatory and non-negotiable? Leviticus 27:30-34 says, “A tithe of everything from the land, whether grain from the soil or fruit from the trees, belongs to the Lord; it is holy to the Lord”. Also, Malachi 3:8-9 says, “Will a mere mortal rob God? Yet you rob me. But you ask, ‘How are we robbing you?’ In tithes and offerings. You are under a curse – your whole nation – because you are robbing me”. It is mandatory and non-negotiable because God says it is. If you refuse, He says you’re robbing Him – and those are His words, not mine. I don’t know about you, but God is someone I definitely don’t want to offend, rob or piss off.

It is because of that instruction that congregations are reminded to “pay” their tithe, not “give” it. I prefer to say “return” because it was never mine to begin with. Returning a tenth of all He gives me seems quite reasonable to me.

You might say that a lot of pastors these days are diverting church funds for their own personal and/or selfish reasons; I’ve heard those rumors too. While that may be true of some pastors, when you give your tithe, you give it in obedience to God’s instructions – you give to God. The important thing is that He accepts it from you. Try to be less concerned with what the church uses the funds for. It’s left for the pastorate of the church to decide how to use the funds available to it according to the leading of the Holy Spirit. If the pastorate uses it the way that best suits them without regard to God, they are answerable to Him [not you], and He will deal with them how He deems fit. Don’t throw yourself into the mix by talking smack about an anointed man of God. And honestly, if you are uncomfortable with the way your church uses the funds it has, you can always leave.

I’ve heard people ask if they can use their tithe for charitable acts. For example, donate to someone in need. No, you cannot. It is for God and God alone. Proverbs 19:17 says, “The one who is gracious to the poor lends to the Lord, and the Lord will repay him for his good deed”. Giving to those in need has its own reward.

I’ve also heard people ask if they can substitute their tithe for love offering and vice versa. For example, break the tithe into four parts and give a part as love offering for each Sunday in a particular month, or give a love offering every Sunday rather than return their tithe. No, you cannot do that either. Deuteronomy 16:16 says, “Three times a year all your males shall appear before the LORD your God in the place which He chooses: at the Feast of Unleavened Bread, at the Feast of Weeks, and at the Feast of Tabernacles; and they shall not appear before the LORD empty-handed. You should never come before God empty-handed. He is our God and we give to Him to appreciate Him. Proverbs 3:9a says, “Honor the Lord with your possessions”. Giving offerings (whether love offering or thanksgiving offering) is a form of worship. Giving is also a sign of love. John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life”.

Tithe cannot be substituted for alms, love offering or anything else. Tithe is tithe and it is mandatory. Let us stop rationalizing the word of God; it is very clear. Obedience is better than sacrifice (1 Samuel 15:22). However, in all these, please remember to not give grudgingly or angrily. There is nothing you have that God didn’t give to you, so give cheerfully. Remember, 2 Corinthians 9:7 says, Each one should give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or from compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.