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That’s me at age 5. I still have that calm demeanor till this day. On this day, my mom got me and my 1 year old sister all dressed up to take some professional pictures at a studio. People kept gushing. “Aww you look so smart and calm; you should be a doctor, it will fit/suit you”. I heard that, a lot, growing up, actually.

Eventually, in school, I started writing in essays that I wanted to be a doctor when I grow up. And, of course, my parents were very supportive. I remember when I was about 7, my mom got me a yellow toy doctor’s bag – complete with a stethoscope, sphyg, otoscope and reflex hammer. The following year, I made colored bandages and wipes during an art class. At 10, my dad got my sister and I the “Operation Game”. It’s a fun board game that mimicked the operation table of a surgeon. The objective was to remove various organs without “harming” the patient.

Over the next 3 years, I got lost. I wanted to be a scientist 👨🏽‍🔬 at a point. Back then, after Cartoon Network, Discovery Channel was my jam. Then, I wanted to be a zoologist because I loved learning/reading about animals. There was no animal I hadn’t memorized. To all these, my mom just shook her head. It was when I told her I wanted to be a philosopher or psychologist that she set me straight – neither of those was going to happen. She suggested being a Chemical Engineer, like one of her brothers. She said they made good money, especially those that worked for oil companies. As a teenager, she had me at “good money”. It was settled. I was going to be an Engineer 👷.

Unfortunately, based on my JSCE result, the Guidance & Counseling Department placed me in the science class for those medically-inclined. I was so upset and wouldn’t have it. I went over there I asked to be put in engineering instead. It took me 2 years of bordering on failing Further Maths and hating Physics to realize that maybe Engineering wasn’t my calling. My brain just couldn’t do abstract.

One night at 16, while home, happily studying for a Biology test, I thought, “What about Medicine?”. I went to my parents’ room to discuss my new career choice. They both happily approved. Whew! No more further maths! Dr Adade loading 👨🏽‍⚕️.

For college, I applied to University of Ibadan, University of Lagos, University of Ghana, and Covenant University. I only got accepted by Covenant University, and for Computer Science. I didn’t mind. I was comfortable pursuing Medicine as a second degree, plus I liked computers. Until I learned Computer Science is AKA Software Engineering. I was like hell no. I’m not doing this. Everyone tried to calm me. I was like no, I’m not going though hell for 4 years. I wished just I chose psychology 😄.

After a year of Computer Science, I got into Houdegbe North American University to study Medicine! Yay! I loved it and I excelled. Unfortunately, the school had one too many challenges with the Nigerian Medical Board, so I had to leave, but I made a friend there who shared a business idea I wouldn’t remember for 3 years.

I was rerouted to Canada. By then, I had decided to be an oncologist. I was 19. By the time the roadmap there was drawn up for me, it was going to take me 12 years! I’d have just become an oncologist a few months ago, if I went ahead. I wasn’t happy, but I didn’t have a Plan B. To make matters worse, some ex-classmates were going for NYSC, and there I was, just starting all over again. My mom kept telling me “It’s not how long, but how well”.

I decided, if I’m going to have to do a first degree before I can study Medicine, I might as well choose a course I think I’d enjoy. So, I choose Psychology😄! September 2007, at 20, I started my first year a McMaster University. Turns out Psychology wasn’t what I’d imagined. I seemed to enjoy a course called Health Studies a little more, so I started gravitating towards it by January, especially since I aced it effortlessly.

Thankfully, everything changed for me that month. One night, I suddenly remembered the business idea from 2005. I was never business inclined, so my thought was to help my friend, since I had easier access to the materials need, but he had moved on. For some reason, I couldn’t let it go. That’s what’s led to the Pearl Kreations of today. The rest is history.

This is a photo of me giving a testimony in 2016. We had just completed one of the largest contracts the company has ever been awarded, and our partner let us keep all the profit!

I didn’t become a doctor, engineer, or psychologist 😄. Today, I’m a serial entrepreneur, and I’m happy and flourishing. It wasn’t necessarily by choice, but by divine design. I never in a million years would have pictured myself here. I didn’t think I had the personality for it, but c’est la vie!

I guess what I’m trying to say is, sometimes, the future may not be clear or lead where you always dreamed, but somehow, the people you meet, places you go, and chances you take, may lead to where you were always meant to be. Trust the process. Trust God. Enjoy your journey.

It’s not how long, but how well.

  1. kemisola Akinseye
    July 6, 2020 at 7:02 pm

    Sylvester 2020 👏

    On Sat, 4 Jul 2020 at 9:46 AM, Sylvester’s Journal wrote:

    > Mr. Kay-Adade posted: ” That’s me at age 5. I still have that calm > demeanor till this day. On this day, my mom got me and my 1 year old sister > all dressed up to take some professional pictures at a studio. People kept > gushing. “Aww you look so smart and calm; you should be ” >

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